Tainted Love

For some incredibly odd and inconceivable reason that I personally have yet to understand, people ask me for relationship advice, a lot. They go on some bullshit about how I have things “figured out” because I know how to put pretty words together sometimes when I’m upset, angry, or whatever awful combination of extremes I am that day.
Allow me to let you in on a little secret: Every relationship I’ve ever been in has failed. There have been times where it’s been completely obvious why: the fighting, insecurities, things of that nature. There’s also been times where I or the other person did everything “right,” and yet, emotional collapse, and failure.
Casual dating is a farce. I’m not saying I have been in love with or planned on marrying every person I’ve dated or had interest in, but I feel like people that use this terminology are cowards afraid to admit interest in the other party in question. It’s okay to like someone, be infatuated with them even; there’s ways to go about this without looking like a fool. I’m just saying, if someone of the gender of your inclination tries to bring these two words up to you, they’re full of shit. It’s like they’re asking you to sign a contract so when they meet someone else while you two are dating, they have an excuse to get out.
Fighting is inevitable in a relationship. Arguments will occur, no matter how in love a couple is, and if it doesn’t, it’s very rare. You don’t need to strive to be the civil couple of the year, lest we forget: You are two separate entities with your own opinions and desires, so allowing yourself the freedom to continue to be yourself is very important. It’s how you handle the arguments that makes your relationship healthy and worthwhile. Ignoring it is a recipe for disaster, no matter how minor. If your significant other doesn’t want to talk about it, that’s fucked up. It’s always worthwhile to talk about whatever either of you have an issue with, even if it’s to say you disagree. It’s better to be on some sort of ground, even if it isn’t the same, than to boil in silence, and not find a place to collect and discuss each others’ feelings at all.
This is my all time, black and white, steadfast, all comforting advice: If they want to be with you, they will. I know it sounds like some hopeless romantic doctrine you hear time and time again, but it’s the entire truth. We have all been the dumper or the dumpee. When you break up with someone, remember how awkward it is when they beg you to stay? You don’t want to, that’s why you’re leaving them. That sucks so bad, and it’s embarrassing. Being the one left multiple times, I have done this in past, but I have learned. If they’re leaving you, they don’t want you. Yeah. It sucks. You’ll be sad, but just like when you’ve dumped someone, they thought about it for a week or two before hand, so their decision is what it is. If they like/love you, they won’t treat you like shit, they won’t leave you or you won’t want to leave, and a way will be found. If not, good riddance, and find someone that will.
I watch so many people waste their time in relationships where parts have been chipped away and lost. You owe it to yourself to be happy when you take the time out of your life to be with someone.